This past week I served a family that had broken associations with each other for one reason or another. As time passed, they grew apart and became resentful of each other’s achievements. In fact, so much time had passed between them, that their children and grandchildren no longer knew their aunts and uncles.
Death, however, is the great equalizer, it has a unique way of bringing the important aspects of life back into focus. When one suffers loss, the absence and deprivation of the decedent's presence, that was once suffered by choice, now becomes unbearable.
My client this week, was confused over longing for the person that he chose to ignore for so many years. He asked me how such feelings were possible. I simply responded, "Families are Forever, and no matter how diligently we try to ignore principles of truth, when faced with the reality of mortality, we can no longer lie to ourselves."
When a family member dies, even when we have purposefully severed ourselves from them, our soul involuntarily mourns their loss. The reason for this bereft response is the eternal truth that "Families are Forever".
My client mourns the loss of his estranged loved one. He regrets the absence of love and experiences that could have been shared. He suffers the realization that he chose to remain resentful when simple forgiveness would have brought happiness, love and harmony back into his family.
Now he must repair the generations of damage this estrangement has caused. He must try to enlighten children, teenagers and adults into a familial harmony that will inevitably enhance their lives more than any other success they may obtain. The truth of the matter is, that when societies, governments and friendships break down, families have always been and will forever be, the strongest unit of cooperation, achievement and love known to mankind. They are the nucleus of human strength.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a funeral director, author and professional speaker. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.