They were excellent men. They were cooperative and considerate toward each other. They finalized their father’s funeral plans, and I began preparations for their wishes.
Their mother and father had divorced ages ago, and they were very complimentary toward the man their mother had married. They spoke of him with respect and admiration. At the graveside service, these three men insisted that their mother and her husband sit with the family under the tent.
I have directed many funerals where the former spouse was unwelcome. I have directed many funerals where the former spouse, along with his or her new partner, were not tolerated. I have directed many funerals where the former spouse has been treated unkindly and asked to leave. I can’t tell you how wonderfully different it was to witness the kindness and courtesy offered by these three adult men to their mother and her husband. Her sons were gentlemen and displayed gentile manners of grace.
Yesterday’s funeral was a restoration of faith for me - my faith in human kindness, human strength, and in human endurance. These three men, suddenly faced with the unexpected death of their beloved father, had the wherewithal to hold onto their values and were able to behave as their mother had raised them. Their mother, the picture of grace, although sad at her former husband’s passing and with great concern for her children, remained ever faithful to their expectations of her. She was cordial, kind and gracious to all who attended the funeral of her son’s father. Her spouse beamed with pride at the grace and beauty she displayed in such a stressful and trying circumstance.
I am thankful for this experience. It has touched my heart. This family’s behavior yesterday brings tears to my heart. Although the day was sad, my tears are those of gratitude and joy for the restoration of my faith in the kindness and generosity displayed by this family toward each other and to those in attendance, under such trying circumstances.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am the owner and Managing Funeral Director at Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City Texas. I am an author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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