Their father had passed years before, and their mother had kept his cremains in a beautiful urn. Her wish was to have him buried with her. As we began to finalize the arrangements, the brothers decided to change their casket selection. They had chosen a beautiful casket for their mother. Somehow they were uncomfortable with it, and at the last moment, decided to switch their selection.
The casket they had chosen was white and pink, but their mother’s favorite color was lavender. I had shown them a casket that came in lavender, and they decided their mother would have preferred that one over the pink. The switch was easy enough; both caskets were the same price and comparable in features. The lavender one, however, came with removable corner pieces. We looked at the catalog, and the brothers selected a basket filled with pink and lavender flowers. As I left the room to print out their contract, I thought they were happy with their choices. When I returned, they surprised me with another change to their selections. They wanted to switch the basket of flowers for motorcycles and leather jackets. They also wanted the corner pieces the day before the service so that they could each paint the blue motorcycles lavender and personalize the leather jackets with their names. I thought it would be a great keepsake for them as they were each Harley riders.
As the visitation began, I leaned over to the youngest brother and whispered to him to be sure I did not forget to remove the corner pieces for them before we lowered the casket into the grave. He looked at me with astonishment and informed me that the corner pieces were to remain intact with the casket. The brothers did not intend to keep the corner pieces, they intended to be their mother’s escort into eternity.
I learned something from these men at their mother’s funeral. Even tough guys have a soft spot filled with love for their beloved mothers.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am the owner and Managing Funeral Director at Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City Texas. I am an author, syndicated columnist, and professional speaker. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.