The young woman spoke of the physical trials her body experienced through the losses, its physical recovery, and the emotional pain of empty arms. She spoke of the support others offered her and the encouragement she received from her family. Although these friends, family, and medical doctors all contributed to her recovery, her recovery was accomplished upon reliance of her immediate family’s spiritual strength.
This young woman’s strength did not come from any sort of professional counseling. It did not come from any sort of bonding among other victims of miscarried loss. It did not come from her clergy. It came from the powerful bonds of holy matrimony with a man that honors God and loves his wife beyond any earthly contract. You see, her husband took his commitment to heart and promised himself before God, and all who witnessed their marriage, to be her protector, provider, and eternal partner.
When her body miscarried their babies, her husband felt the loss just as deeply. He consoled his wife and assisted her physical recovery. He took great care of her needs and supported her routine to repair the ravages of loss. Together as a married couple, wholly committed in the service of a supreme being, they focused their recovery on a spiritual plain. Her husband blessed her body and soul, and they never lost their faith in each other, their God, and their mutual goal of creating their family. Their commitment carried them through times of weakness, regret, sadness, and doubt. They would pray together, study together, work together, and help each other overcome anything that came their way. They became a mighty fortress against anything and anyone who would jeopardize their commitment to each other, their goals, their family, or their love. They recommitted themselves each evening in family prayer, family scripture study, and in family activities. They surrounded themselves in service to others, and eventually delivered their darling daughter after the two miscarriages.
This family’s experience is unique, and there is much to be learned from them. Many survivors chose to use professional counselors to guide grief recovery; many chose medical doctors or support groups, some even go it alone. This husband and wife have survived the odds.
Grief Brief 150
Loss of Child
It is thought the loss of a child will bring a husband and wife closer together.
In reality, the opposite is more common.
If you have suffered the loss of a child, you may find that professional counseling might help a great deal.
(Mourning Light II, Tracy Renee Lee, 2016)
In the midst of adversity and profound loss, this young husband and wife chose to defy the odds. They remained committed to each other, to their family, to their goals, and to their faith. They helped each other through the trials that tore at their happiness, and they built a fortress of strength that helped them endure the loss of two babies. They are an amazing couple, they are a committed couple, and they are an example of triumph over adversity.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am the owner and Managing Funeral Director at Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City Texas. I am an author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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