Last week the pattern changed again. The road crews posted signs of the impending change for days in advance. I began to be apprehensive over the change due to the amount of signage and the length of advanced notice. It seemed unusual to me and I thought to myself, “Wow, there must be a great potential for serious accidents for them to do all of this.” My apprehension was well warrented. The very first day of the traffic pattern change, there were three 18 wheeler accidents reported. No telling how many more auto accidents occured that didn’t make the news.
My clients this week suffered a tragic loss. The father had only recently begun a new job. He was very experienced in his profession and excellent at it as well. He was a tanker driver. His specialty was fuel transport, gasoline in particular. A distracted driver hit his tanker, and he lost his life on the highway, not far from my home.
His children are young adults with budding families of their own, but they loved their father deeply and will suffer from this tragic loss for the rest of their lives. At his services, his clergyman could scarcely make it through his message. The heartache of his parishioner's painful suffering tore his heart in two. I held back tears as his pastor paused to regain control of his emotions several times before ending the service. The decedent was a remarkable man, father, husband, and grandfather.
As I sat in my arrangement room with the family, a representative from his employer entered and joined us. He was the Director of Safety for Dupre Logistics, LLC. While the decedent’s wife and children made their selections, the Director of Safety encouraged them not to worry about the expenses. After all had been settled for the weeks events, the family left the funeral home. The Director of Safety remained behind to speak with me. He assured me that his company would cover the expense of the funeral arrangements even though this man had worked for them for less than 90 days.
The company's Director of Safety was true to his word. Dupre Logistics, LLC delivered a company check to my funeral home for the full cost of services the very next day. Although this is an astounding generosity from this company, the incredible kindness was that the Director of Safety came to the services with two gentlemen accompanying him - the owner and president of Dupre Logistics, LLC, Mr. Dupre, and another company executive. They had driven up from south Louisiana to be there for this widow and her children. When Dupre Logistics, LLC says, "When you join our team, you're family," they mean it. They put their money where their mouths were, but more importantly, they were there to support their employee's family during the most horrendous experience they could ever have suffered. If I were a transport specialist, Dupre Logistics, LLC would be the company of choice for me. They care for their people the way companies used to care back in the day. They have empathy, kindness, and benevolence. They are men of honor in their private lives and in their work. I am honored to have met them, and I am honored to have served such a noble family suffering such a horrendous loss.
As I escorted friends and guests out of the chapel, I turned back to check on the family as they took their final moments with their departed loved one. They gathered arm in arm, bowed their heads, and asked their Lord and Savior to receive their loved one into his abiding presence. With tears spilling down my cheeks, I witnessed the sad farewell suffered by the decedent’s heartbroken widow and her valiant children. Silently, I offered my own little prayer on their behalf and for all the people who would be driving on the highway not far from my home.
After the services, I took my children out to dinner. I asked them to redirect their driving patterns and avoid this highway until after the traffic patterns return to normal. Distracted drivers are carelessly deadly to those sharing the highway with them. My husband and I, and my children have redirected our own traffic patterns until the highway becomes safer for us to travel. Road crews place caution signs for your safety and the safety of others. Please do not ignore them. Observing them may save your life, it may also save the lives of others one day.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am the owner and Managing Funeral Director at Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City Texas. I am an author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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