Whatever the attraction is for people to come together, once they have developed true love, there is no going back. True love is a spiritual experience rather than a physical one. It is formed deep within one's soul. Once one falls in love, one’s identity changes from a single person, whose primary focus is their own self-preservation and appetites, to that of a couple. People who truly love each other are committed to their partner’s preservation and appetites rather than their own. Even the most selfish people will sacrifice their lives for the person they truly love.
True love grows beyond the couple. It proliferates beyond perception once they have children. Now the couple finds that they will give up their lives and all that they have for these little bundles of joy they have produced. The love the mother and father develop for their unborn baby grows from within, long before the baby is born. Their love is an eternal love; it is spiritual in nature. The parents are committed to providing for their baby, protecting it and loving it at their own peril if necessary.
This small unit of love is the foundation of society. It is the bond that creates cooperation and respect among human beings. It is also the driving force behind a survivor’s grief experience.
I was conversing with one of my clients last week whose father recently passed away. He and his wife became estranged soon after the funeral. We were talking about his deep pain over Thanksgiving and what he might experience with Christmas just around the corner. He expressed his heartbreak over his broken marriage. His hope is that he and his wife will reunite and live together with their young children again as a family. As he poured out his inward pain, I was jolted by one of his statements. “She is my soul mate, and I will love her till death do we part.” As he continued talking, my mind wandered. I couldn’t help myself, I interrupted him and asked, “Your father is dead, and you still love him, right?” He answered, “Yes.” I ventured further, “Do you think that the instant your wife dies, you will stop loving her?” He paused, thinking for a moment. He uttered a soft and heart wrenching, “No, I will love her forever.”
My client’s love for his father is eternal and will not fade just because his father has died. The same holds true for his wife. As a funeral director, I see loved ones suffer the painful separation created by death on a daily basis. It surrounds my very existence. True love transcends physical attraction; it is a spiritual experience, and it extends beyond the grave.
True love is eternal. True love between marriage partners, parents and children, best friends, etc. survives death. I believe that I will love my husband, my children, my parents, my friends and even my pets forever. I believe this because I grieve their losses. I feel the pain within my soul when one of them passes. I believe families are forever because my love for them continues and lives within me even in their absence. I refuse to give love up simply because my loved ones die. I hold onto the hope that upon my death I will reunite with them and that my love for them will be rewarded with their presence once again. I have faith that love, joy and tranquility will once again be mine.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am the owner and Managing Funeral Director at Queen City Funeral Home in Queen City Texas. I am an author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books and weekly bereavement articles related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. I deliver powerful messages and motivate audiences toward positive recovery. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.